This article on Medium really stuck with me. I hope you also enjoy it and self reflect.
I never really thought that by owning your failures and seeking to learn from them it put you in an actual minority of persons who do. Suddenly being a failure, but NOT GIVING UP, makes you one of the ELITE. Not that all of life should amount to some competitive sense of Darwinism…
It’s true though, that once stuff gets hard, most of us quit. Most of us don’t keep trying, failing, trying, failing….and failing some more before maybe in half a life time we finally find a success. I agree that many of us (particularly our ‘everyone gets a trophy for trying’ generation) see success as something that is supposed to be easy. That, if it doesn’t fall in our laps, clearly we are doing it wrong or barking up the wrong tree.
But it is also inherently cheating ourselves to think this way. How many of us think we are awesome if we can run from the front door to the mailbox? How many people think that is setting the bar high enough to justify a victory dance or bragging at the next group happy hour? In comparison, how many of us have a little apprehension at signing up for a 5K, 10K or Marathon because we know it will actually take WORK, TRAINING, TIME and DEDICATION. But it also will come with a well earned victory dance and sense of accomplishment if we stick it out. Even if we fail to follow through, completing a hard effort and pushing beyond what comes easily is always rewarding.
Also just from my purely mathematical geek self, the more times you try (even if most of those are a fail), you must increase your chances for a success. Law of large numbers folks….
Love these quotes:
“If I fail more than you, I win.” -Seth Godin
“Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.”
-Thomas J. Watson